Be With Someone Who Sees Your Vision.

and not the one giving you doubts and fears along the way.

Growing up, I've always encountered problems regarding money and stability. My Mom is the breadwinner and I've always been curious how she handled everything all at once. I guess we're all really destined to be something. Since she's a living success story, I've always took her advices and words to heart. However, her actions are also my blueprint.

Honestly, kahit makasama niyo lang siya you will know agad why she's successful. It's not something she can just teach you, cause even if gawin mo yung exact na ginawa niya, a lot of factors still come to play.

One of those factors is my Dad.

I describe their success story in one sentence : "A woman who has a vision, and a man who makes it happen no matter what."

My Mom has always been a visionary. She always see the good in everything. Lagi siya nakakaisip ng paraan and my dad will make it happen. Kahit hindi logical or practical yung susuggest ni mommy, naniniwala padin si daddy sa vision niya. Kahit madaming tutol, kahit risky and kahit walang wala siya, he will always, always, make it happen.

And I'm not entirely saying financial lang siya. you don't know kung gano malaking tulong yung emotional and physical support. Mahirap naman kase talaga ang buhay. Palagi naman kelangan ng pera. Oo mahal naman lahat ng bilihin and necessities etc. That's the reality eh. It's one of those things na hindi mo naman na macocontrol. we can't just cry about it all day kase living is about surviving and masyado akong bata nung na expose ako sa ganyang realidad. It's probably the reason why I have this financial trauma in the first place. Yung kahit meron ka namang enough you'll spend your everyday time thinking about kelan kaya mauubos to or baka maubos to bigla baka mamaya ganto ganyan when in fact hindi naman mang yayari. It's hard having that anxiety every single day. That's why it's really important to have someone na naniniwala sayo and sa kakayahan niya sa buhay.

Alam mo yung kapag sinasabi mo sakanya yung mga pangarap mo feel mo walang makakapigil sainyo. Kapag pinag uusapan niyo yung mga plano niyo, walang anything na bearing. Yun yung isa talaga sa mga gusto kong i-adapt from my Mom. sobrang tapang niya sumabak talaga. kahit hindi niya alam san pupulot ng pera, talagang nabili pa din siya ng mga pag kakakitaan. alam mo yung kahit negative na siya sa bank niya, mas focus siya sa papasok na pera kesa sa palabas. she always told us that.

"wag niyong tititpidin yung sarili niyo. mag focus kayo sa income and not sa papalabas na pera. kung magastos kayo edi mas lakihan niyo yung kita dapat ng pera. edi lakasan niyo din mag pasok ng pera"

honestly in this age, it's very hard to do. sabi nga nila easier said than done but then I realize, bat ko nga ba pinapangunahan yung sarili ko? kase first of all, you always always listen to the people who actually made it. that's why hindi ako pala paniwala sa mga ibang coaches and how-to s etc because I literally have my mother lol. second, I haven't tried everything life has to offer. I think yung Mom ko naka 10+ na na try mag business or kung ano anong jobs but it always fails lol. Naalala ko din nung bata ako yung nanay ko nag try mag tinda ng mga anik anik sa maliit na mall as in napunta pa sila divisoria palagi pero I think that only lasted for a month haha. nag try din yan ng flower shop, shoe shop, coffee shop, spa, basta andami! pero they all failed. reminds me also of my many start ups that I started but ultimately I only gained losses. Nawalan lang ako ng pera pls haha.

but despite all of her fails and struggles, my dad always and still believed in her.

never siya nag doubt kay mommy. pag may naisip si mommy na gawin, di siya mag dadalawang isip na i-execute agad yung idea ni mommy. naalala ko dati yung may flower shop kami, araw araw yan napunta silang dalawa sa dangwa to buy some fresh flowers at 4am tas uuwi sila ng 6am then papasok si daddy ng 7am. EVERY SINGLE DAY. and he never, never ever made my mom feel like she was a burden or failure kahit na nag fail yung business. despite of their efforts, it was unfortunately closed. hindi ko nga alam kung kumita kame dun tbh. I honestly think 0 yung income dun HAHA. despite all of that, never pinafeel ng daddy ko na failure si mommy and na dapat hindi na siya mag isip pa ng business or mag tayo. imagine that's probably their 6th business already that failed pero game padin siya palagi despite of the risks it will come with. kase apat kami mag kakapatid, may bahay na binabayadan, well before rent lang kame hehe but again dahil gusto din nila mag push na to work and gumanda ang buhay, they made it happen na mag karon kami ng sariling bahay. ang alam ko sabi pa nga ni mami di nga daw nila alam san niya kukunin yung pera pambayad basta lakasan lang ng loob HAHA.

I wish to be with someone like that. someone who doesn't give me doubts and doesn't doubts my plans and vision. sana meron ding hahawak ng kamay ko and sasabihin na "kayang kaya natin to. gagawan natin ng paraan". Nakaka gana mabuhay at mag pursue if you have someone who genuinely sees the good in everything. who genuinely believes in themselves. yung malakas yung faith. yung hindi ka matatakot na lumaban kasama siya. yung hindi ka matatakot tumalon kase alam mong kasama mo siya. yung hindi ka takot sumugal kase alam mong hindi ka nag iisa.